As a former exotic dancer, I had a bit of experience with cameras. I did it for a living and it was a fun way to make money. I say “did” because it was primarily for my own personal use. Several years ago I met a man who was interested in having sex with me and his wife was not happy with this. We had a huge falling out over his wife’s desire to be with another man. She felt like it was a slap in the face to her masculinity. As a result of this, they started having sex with each other and soon were going to separate again. Very soon after that the man decided he wanted to be with me.
They had been going out for about three weeks when I first met him. He had mentioned prior to our first date he had lost all sexual desire and was only having sex with me to keep his wife happy. He also stated that he used me to satisfy his sexual needs. So, I did what many women do, and I accepted the first date. Here’s what happened…
They had gone out again and he did not tell me they were going out again. I made dinner and we shared a bottle of wine. We got intimate and then he got up and headed home.
Now, I know what some people are thinking… especially those who have been in a long-term relationship and have experienced what it is to be in a rut. You might think that after a certain amount of time together, couples get comfortable, sleep together comfortable, kids are born, life is like, and people settle into a rut. Guess what happened? Nothing. Instead, they just got downright nasty with each other. rage happened. Things got out of control. We got into shouting matches on the bus. He started picking fights with her because he just didn’t like her. Then she started picking fights with him because he didn’t like her. She would just get all upset and mad. Nothing was working.
Once I made it up to her (in the makeup and hair market) she told me she loved me. However, inside my head, I was like, “How can she love me when she just got me dumped by her husband”? I started looking for a guy that was going to at least let me feel comfortable before she showed her interest in me. I saw a lot of single guys, and then a few more that were just dumpsters to get into. I finally talked to the right guy who actually gave me a date and then later that night we had our first date.
I didn’t tell him what was happening, but I ended up getting a little revenge on my ex by hooking up with a guy I actually met at the mall. I didn’t tell him my secret, but I felt like I needed to. I’m sure he knows what I’m talking about. I hope you never experience this with your man. It sucked.
They say to never trust a woman, but you have to trust your man not to hurt you. You have to give him a enough rope or break him out of a prison. If he can’t take care of you, cut him loose and give him the world. How are you going to do that if you’re hanging out with a guy who just won’t cut you loose? I hope you’re thinking about how you’re going to have fun, be friends with benefits, and not get hurt.
Because I know you have too. I hope you’re thinking about the future and not getting hurt. I wish you the best and will do whatever it takes to keep you safe. I don’t know you, so I don’t know what to do.